(Lessons about timing, life and death, that others have told me.)
Timing is everything. Don’t put any of it off.
Try to not let people down, to not leave people in the lurch.
Get the practicalities sorted out as soon as you can – wills, money stuff, wishes.
At the same time sort out who’ll sort it all out for you. Make sure they know enough to do so easily. Don’t be a problem when you’re gone.
And there’s communication. Timing again. Don’t wait to ask things. Don’t wait to say things. There might only be silence tomorrow, a silence that lasts forever.
And there’s timing when you die, to the extent you can influence it.
And there’s timing and happiness. Can you face your death happily? Don’t put happiness off as something you’ll strive for later in life. Later might not happen.
Similarly, don’t put off living well – living with an intensity. It doesn’t have to be loud or showy. An intensity informed by an awareness of death will allow you to properly appreciate your life – the life you can actually live.
Live with an intensity that means you can face your death knowing you couldn’t have lived it better, an intensity that allows you to leave your life fulfilled.
Do all these things now. You can think about everything I’ve written for as long as you like. You can think you wholeheartedly agree with it all. But timing counts. Thoughts are rendered worthless without actions. Do all these things now.